I mentioned how the ego keeps us from knowing our truth, and one of the ways we can deal with ego is to name the thoughts or emotions that show up. In this way we create some space, witness them, and not get caught up in the stories they tell. These stories are not the truth that we are, they are fabricated by Ego to keep us feeling separate; better than, or worse than the other players of our drama or pathos. The characters we engage with are the embodiment of anger, despair, anxiety, worry and a host of others. The task of disconnecting from Ego is not easy. It has a strong grip on us to match all the disparate parts of ourselves that are in revolt with each other.
I read somewhere of a creation story from the Native American people of the Northwest: Old Man, maker of all things first created a girl who he named Breaking Daylight. She watched him cut himself one day, then gather the blood up, breathe into it and create a boy. Breaking Daylight then watched as Old Man proceeded to give the boy a mind. Old Man made ten more human beings, wrapped them up and put them into the young man. This was the mind. Old Man told Breaking Daylight, that the mind was not going to allow the young man to get anywhere unless all ten gave their consent for the young man to get to where he was headed. Then Old man cut himself again, collected the blood, breathed on it and created another human being. He told Breaking Daylight that this one was called Staying Alive. He then put Staying Alive inside the head of the young man.
For me, this is a beautiful metaphorical teaching story on the importance of having all aspects of our being in alignment. What we think, how we feel, what we say, and how we act must all be congruent. No matter how much we talk about what we want to create in our lives, if some parts of ourselves are doubtful, afraid, distrustful etc., we will not be able to manifest our heart’s desire. We really have to look deeper to see what hidden beliefs are preventing us from accomplishing what we want; who is there that is sabotaging our goals.
In the Native American creation story, Staying Alive was created by Old Man and placed along side the ten aspects of Mind. Who is Staying Alive? I see him as the trickster, old Ego himself that keeps the disparity of self in tact so that Ego can stay alive and grow strong, creating the feeling of separation from Truth. When we live from the aspect of Truth, there is clarity, there is trust in our world, there is faith that all our needs will be met. There is the knowing that all things, all beings are connected and when we declare what we want to manifest in our world, when it is for the highest good, all of creation comes together to help us to bring it forth in a synchronistic dance. However when we are caught up in Ego’s web, some parts of us will sabotage our endeavors because of its own beliefs and programs that says that what we want to create can’t be done.
How do we become of one mind, where there is a harmony in our thoughts, our feelings, our speech and our actions? I believe that the answer lies in aligning with Truth. When we live from Ego, every aspect is living from a belief that is inconsistent with the rest. The way to align with Truth is to live from the heart, from loving-kindness. For as strong as Ego is and how difficult it is to be free of its sticky tentacles, love is greater. Every time we come upon that same issue we have been wrestling with, when we soften our feelings, without judgment, without beating ourselves up, we are practicing loving-kindness and compassion. Soon we notice that Ego does not have its hypnotic grip on us and we are freer, more aligned with Truth. We are living from that space which is of peace, joy and clarity. It takes constant practice, but when we recognize that this is our main purpose in life, that everything that happens is for the polishing of this gem of understanding, then life no longer feels like a drag, but a play of consciousness, and we are the players until the last curtain call!