July 23rd marked the beginning of Leo’s annual period of celestial reign. Whether you’re a die-hard believer or a skeptic, you can’t deny that astrology is, in the words of OK Cupid, “fun to think about.” So occasionally I do just that””and Leo is the star-sign on which I train my focus since I am one and so are many of the most important people in my life. Plus, over the course of many years spent observing, reading about, and interacting with folks whose birthdays fall between the 23rd of July and 22nd of August, I’ve drawn many conclusions about Leos and what makes them tick. So I wanted to share one observation in particular, one which I find especially intriguing””the difference between Leo men and Leo women seems to be greater than the gender disparity under any other sign.
Dating as Leo
I haven’t seen this mentioned very much in astrological descriptions, but based on experience””it’s totally true!
What makes this astrological idiosyncrasy so interesting is that Leos of both sexes do, in fact, share the same character traits. But because they manifest themselves so differently in men than they do women, Leo boys and Leo girls end up being polar opposites!
Let’s first look at what they have in common: In a nutshell, Leos can best be described as a-holes with hearts of gold. Confidence, arrogance, loyalty, assertiveness, kindness, ambition, stubbornness””these are the sign’s most distinguishing characteristics. However, if for instance, you’re curious about your compatibility with someone born under the this constellation, it’s important to keep in mind that the way Leos apply the qualities they possess depends on gender.
For example, on the surface, Leo males appear to be extroverted, cocky, unapologetically self-absorbed and love being the center of attention. They’re seen by others as arrogant but also fun to be around and very charismatic.
However, upon getting to know Leo men more closely, their strength of character might seem to be an act, because their behavior behind closed doors will make you believe that they’re actually the most vulnerable, insecure and sensitive individuals in existence.
They get offended quickly and easily, tend to blow very insignificant problems grossly out of proportion, and like to blame others for their own shortcomings.
But mind you, this isn’t because Leo men are weak. It’s because, like all Leos, they’re proud. And it’s their pride that makes it so difficult for them to take criticism or accept any sort of failure as being the result of ineptitude on their part.
Leo men hold others to the same high standards””which is why they may come across as being overly sensitive to actions they perceive as disrespectful, quick to take things the wrong way, or view something completely innocent or accidental as intentionally malicious.
For example, one Leo friend of mine always assumes everything people around him do is done with him in mind. So, let’s say you leave a party without telling him because of some legitimate emergency. My friend will immediately take that as you trying to demonstratively disrespect him””when at no point did he even cross your mind. You just wanted to find a bathroom with no line, dammit!
Lady Leos on the other hand, while also very devoted to the people they care about, are much more understanding about non-Leos having different levels of loyalty as they do. And while they are equally as prideful and self-confident as men, those attributes are actually what allow Leo women to take things in stride.
They’re more composed and not easily offended. Their confidence makes them calm, collected and secure. And while they’ll fight to the death for things and people they really care about, they’re completely unfazed by trivial problems and petty conflict. Leo women aren’t nearly as show-boat-y as their male counterparts””often their behavior will even come across as quiet or reserved. This isn’t because they’re shy or insecure, but rather because they’re so secure with themselves that they have no real need for the approval of others.
In fact, I’ve grown to realize that the most levelheaded, most composed, and most practical women I know are Leos; you’re unlikely to find a person who sweats the small stuff less.
Despite their differences, Leos do gravitate to Leos of the opposite gender for friendship. It works because lady Leos, while less outgoing themselves, enjoy the showmanship and entertainment value of a male Leo’s company. Plus their strong sense of empathy enables Leo women to put up with their frequently hurt feelings and dramatic outbursts””though they do consider it a major turn-off in the romantic sense. This is ultimately why Leos rarely date other Leos.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the sign in a nutshell according to me. I’m curious to hear about others’ experience with and thoughts on Leos, so do share. And remember to wish the important ones in your life a happy birthday this month!