Introverts are often more comfortable in the company of an animal than with another human. Introverts and pets share a deep connection with each other, whether they are a dog lover or a cat lover.
But what is it that makes introverts and their pets so perfect for each other? It is because animals don’t judge us? They don’t make small talk? They are never fake with us? Or is there a deeper, more emotional reason for this?
The human-animal bond
Humans and animals have a profound emotional and spiritual connection that cannot be explained. Introverts and pets share, perhaps, the most sincere and honest relationship a human being can ever experience in their life. Spiritual teacher and best-selling author Eckhart Tolle believes dogs are “the Guardians of Being” and they give us the opportunity to connect with another being without any judgement and with an open heart.
Tolle himself shares a special bond with his Cavalier King Charles Spaniel, Maya. In an interview with Modern Dog Magazine, Tolle explains “To simply watch a dog without any kind of mental commentary, just tune in…there’s a link. Something else that’s very important for many people is they realize, consciously or unconsciously, that their dog is not judging them. For some people, it’s the only relationship that they have where there’s no fear and where they realize they are being accepted and not judged.”
He adds “I believe that dogs are keeping millions of people sane who would otherwise become deeply neurotic in our alienated world.” This is especially true for introverts. And it’s not just about dogs. Around one-third of cat owners tend to live alone according to a study. It was found that mostly single and unmarried women owned only cats. Perhaps this is why most people believe that introverts tend to be cat lovers. Although that may be true, the connection between an introvert and animals is not limited to dogs or cats.
A divine connection
Eckhart Tolle says “There are teachings that say every being is a spark of the divine of God. You can see it sometimes more clearly [in dogs] than in a human being because the human being has the veil of mind, negative emotions, and ego, and plays a role. I believe that dogs fill a vital function in the collective consciousness of humanity. I would call them “the Guardians of Being.”
Being an introvert myself and both a dog person and a cat person, I feel emotionally drawn to every animal I see or meet. I feel like there’s an instant connection and that we’ve known each other for a long time. If you are an introvert, then I am pretty sure you know what I mean. Michaela Chung, author and founder of Introvert Spring explains “Animals offer a kind of companionship that feeds an introvert’s gentle soul like nothing else. While people drain our energy by expecting constant conversation, animals replenish us by offering comfort beyond words.”
Introverts and pets are a perfect fit because animals instinctively know how to care and show affection to an introvert in the most genuine way. When an introvert gets exhausted after dealing with people throughout the day, their pets can help them feel replenished and recharged. “Our animal friends are just what the doctor ordered,” adds Michaela.
Real unconditional love
One of the primary reasons why introverts feel so connected with pets is because they allow us to experience unconditional love. Love that is free from judgement and based on unconditional acceptance of who we are. Our pets love have zero expectations from us, they are always happy to see us (even when we avoid them at times) and they love us for who we are deep down. They give us that unconditional love we so desperately seek and which is nearly impossible to find with another human being.
Introverts and pets have that special bond. A bond that you know will never break, even when you or your pet is not here anymore. A bond that truly lasts for all eternity. Mental health writer and researcher Amy Gardner explains “Your dog or cat doesn’t care whether you’re skinny, rich, athletic, or popular. He or she just wants you: your presence, your affection, your voice, and your touch… This unconditional love is so important to us that it can change our brain chemistry.”
Pets heal the introvert’s soul
Had a bad day at work? Had an ugly fight with your partner? Everything went wrong in the day? Struggling with self-love? Let your beloved pet soothe your soul. Every time I felt emotionally exhausted or just had a hard long day, my Labrador Buzo (RIP brother) would start wagging his tail the moment I entered my apartment and jump up on me, looking at me with his adorable eyes. As I sat down beside him and started talking to him about my day, I felt a relief I cannot explain. He was the friend and therapist I needed on a daily basis. All my pain and exhaustion would disappear within minutes and I would feel immediately energized. That is the connection between introverts and pets.
Michaela writes “You see, animals simply don’t do small talk. Otis the dog will never ask you how your day was, or what you did on the weekend. But his eyes will light up when you walk in a room. And he will stay by your side through good times and bad. Should you ever feel like opening up, he’ll perk his ears in your direction, and listen intently without ever interrupting you.”
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